Mom Has A Miscarriage. Newborn Baby Girl Lives In Mom’s Arms For 2 Hours Before Passing Away
On September 2016, Alyssa Young and her husband went to the Obstetrics and Gynecology for a routine check-up for her pregnancy.
Alyssa has cerebral palsy and diabetes, which can impose a risk on the baby’s health. Therefore, it was crucial for her to carefully monitor her baby’s progress. Everything was going as planned until Alyssa realized that she was in an unusual amount of pain after an ultrasound.
In the beginning, Alyssa didn’t think much about the discomfort. However, as her pains evolved into an upset stomach and pelvic pains, she became increasingly worried.
Speaking about the incident, Alyssa writes:
“Being pregnant, it is very hard to diagnose pains with everything physically changing. Friday rolled around and I just couldn’t take this pain anymore… Sunday, October 2, I was taken to the Emergency Room in my hometown because I was still in pain and having minor bleeding… Scarlett was perfect, so they sent us home. My husband and I were so relieved. We thanked God our girl was fine. Monday approaches, and I call my Obstetrician back… I was told that everything I was experiencing was normal.”
According to doctors, everything seemed normal, but Alyssa’s motherly instincts told her otherwise. She knew something was wrong…
On October 3, Alyssa was rushed to the hospital due to major discomfort and pains. At the hospital, the obstetrician informed Alyssa that she was suffering from an incompetent cervix. This meant that her body was trying to miscarry the baby.
In an attempt to save baby Scarlett, Alyssa was given magnesium to prevent her from dilating, but it wasn’t enough.
Unfortunately, Alyssa’s cervix continued to dilate the next day.
“I don’t really remember what time they came in to check on me, but I know it was early. The ultrasound showed I was dilated to 5 centimeters and Scarlett was basically on her way to meet us…I felt like I had failed. I felt like I failed him and our daughter. All I could spit out was “I’m sorry. I’m so sorry.” I must have repeated that a dozen times. We both cried and prayed, prayed and cried. We called our family and close friends to tell them the news. We told them that it’d be a good idea to come to the hospital. We were surrounded by so much love that day. So many prayers, and so much love filled that hospital room.”
At just 20 weeks and 5 days, baby Scarlett was too young to survive. Alyssa and Justin knew that their baby girl would not survive long past labor, so they made sure family and friends were present to say both hello and goodbye for the first time.
Scarlett survived for just two hours, but in that short amount of time, she was given love and affection from everyone who was present. Most importantly, she was cherished by her mother the entire time.
In a heartbreaking statement, Alyssa writes:
“As I held her, she gasped for breath. I told her that I was so sorry. I told her I loved her. I told her it was okay to let go. Seeing your child dying and knowing that there is nothing you can do to save them, it’s a terrible feeling. You’re helpless. Everyone took their turns and held her. Everyone got to love her. That’s all she ever experienced was love.”
Scarlett didn’t get to spend a lot of time in this world, but Alyssa is giving her baby girl a powerful purpose. Alyssa is encouraging mothers to talk about their miscarriages, stillbirths and to open up about these issues. She hopes that by raising awareness, more mothers will take preventative measures and that fewer babies will be lost.